One Step to Improve Your Marriage

one step to improve your marriage

Every marriage will go through times where sparks aren’t flying. No matter how wonderful a marriage might be, there will be times when the doldrums threaten to take over. These times do not necessarily mean that sin is involved (although that could be the case). More often, it is just the hurry and hustle of life that pushes a rift between husband and wife.

Too often, a couple simply assumes that it will “be this way,” and they fail to grow back together.

Even more tragically, too many let these seasons push them permanently apart, and the union is dissolved.

But it doesn’t have to be that way. We need to know that there will be seasons that are not easy, but that does not mean it has to be that way all the time.

Instead of searching for “6 ways to fix things” or “10 steps to get out of this” posts, let me give you a one step approach. I’m not saying this one step will fix every problem, but if you will take this one step, you will see improvement, if even in small increments.

What is the one step?

Study your spouse.

“Wait,” you say. “I know my spouse. I’m married to him/her. I’ve ‘done life’ with them for years. What are you talking about?”

I’m talking about studying your spouse today. She is not the same woman you married in every way. He is not the same man. In some ways, your spouse is a better person, and (admittedly) in some areas there is still room for improvement. Not every interest has stayed exactly the same through all these years. New fears have become part of life, as have new ways of finding joy.

In each of these areas, there are ways where you can serve. If you discover something new that brings fear or discouragement to your spouse, you can speak great levels of strength to that part of life. If you learn that your spouse just isn’t into what they used to enjoy, you can gain from the search for something new to do together.

Too often, we get married, and then put our relationships on autopilot. We just assume that the person we married will never really change (except the obvious physical changes that come through the years). But I know that I am not exactly the same as I was back when I said, “I do.” Why, then, should I expect that my spouse will be just the same?

This can be scary ground, sure. You might discover insecurities or fears that you do not particularly like. But it provides you a way to speak strength into your spouse in ways that really make an impact. It provides you with ways to grow in areas of strength that you may have not even realized were there.

While it will still take a great deal of effort to see major improvement in your relationship, I can guarantee that if you will prayerfully and seriously study your spouse, you will be motivated to speak and act in ways that will provide improvement.

It may just be step one…but it is a powerful first step.

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5 Mistakes Parents Keep Making

5 mistakes parents keep making

As I write this I am scooting my chair up to the table and fastening a bib around my neck in order to keep from allowing any humble pie to get on my clothes.

Parenting is tough! I have made and continue to make many mistakes. I constantly pray to God for help and forgiveness. But thankfully, with God as my heavenly parent and with His manual close by, in this process of being a father I am learning. Through my own misguided struggles as well as my observations of others, I would like to share with you five major mistakes parents continually make.

Some parents worship their children rather than worshiping God.

It is easy to love our children and to do things for them. We are happy when they are happy. But when does their happiness become too important to us? What children want and what children need are not always the same. Our children are here to be loved but not worshiped. We need God-centered homes rather than kid-centered homes. Our lives are supposed to be about God first so our relationships must be guided by the same principle (Exodus 20:3).

Some parents try to live their second childhood through their children.

Maybe it is because they never got to live their first childhood, since their own parents rode piggyback, too. Parents need to be parents. When you grow up you are supposed to put away childish things (1 Cor. 13:11). It is time parents stop trying to make their kids be the sports stars they never were. No more with the baby pageants. No more with the crazy parents in the stands. No more with the excessive efforts to make the world adore your children. God loves them. You love them. That should suffice.

Some parents believe that their children can do nothing wrong.

Let me qualify this problem by saying it usually only starts when the kids leave the house. We may see their faults at home, but the minute a teacher or friend or authority figure accuses our child of anything but excellence, the guard goes up. If our children are going to have any respect for authority, we have to back up those people who are not us who are trying to do their best for our children. Your kids not only can do wrong but they certainly will. When others see your children struggling, take it to heart. They may draw attention to something they need help with that you have been unable to see because you are their parent.

Some parents choose friendship over discipline.

Sorry, mom and dad. You cannot be your teenager’s BFF. Not now anyway. Right now they need boundaries. Right now they need to be told, “No.” Right now they need you to tell them that even though that is cool and popular with their friends it is not cool and popular with you and it is absolutely not good with God. Friendship is easier than discipline. It is tempting to be a neat parent. But wimping out when it is time for discipline will lead to disrespect. They may not like you now when you keep them from getting their way. But they will love you and thank you later and be your best friend when everyone becomes an adult.

Some parents don’t let their kids be kids.

This one may be the biggest mistake of all. In an age of information our kids are learning things they don’t need to learn. Children cannot process adult topics and problems and they were never meant to. In the name of entertainment we have all said, “Oh, I think they can handle this movie,” and then came regret. Not limiting their internet and phone access and exposure is the same as letting them play with the devil as if he were a schoolmate. Giving into pressure from others about having “the talk” too early keeps a child from retaining innocence. The days are coming when sin will be real and innocence will be gone forever. Our young children are sinless now. Why would we initiate and encourage the process?

Children are our heritage and joy. They are both our greatest blessing and our greatest responsibility. There is too much at stake to keeping reliving the same mistakes over and over.

Remember the child. Ask God for help. Do your best. Pray often.

“But whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in Me to sin, it would be better for him if a millstone were hung around his neck, and he were drowned in the depth of the sea.”

(Matthew 18:6)

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Surprising News about Steve Jobs (and Other Tech People)

I realize that this post may be VERY lengthy, but I thought it was worth considering. A few weeks ago I wrote about our society being a “non-connected connected society.” The words below are a portion of a transcript of Dr. Albert Mohler’s podcast; The BriefingWhat he said is, in my opinion, surprising and very important.

I hope you’ll take the time to read his  words and the words of those whom he quoted.

–Jim Faughn

Tech executive parents understand vulnerability of children to technology

As I said, we live in a very ironic age – and in this case, a new irony comes to light. Sometimes it takes an unbeliever to make a profoundly important point about the centrality of belief. Earlier this week, millions upon millions of people appeared to be waiting – transfixed – for the latest announcement from technology giant, Apple. Even as people in the past waited for a word from the Lord, or word from the king, millions of people these days appear to be waiting for nothing more than a word from Apple. Apple chairman Tim Cook revealed a line of new products, including two new smartphones – the iPhones – and also a promised Apple watch. But all that is eclipsed by an article that appeared in yesterday’s edition of theNew York Times, the article really had nothing to do with the announcement made by Apple this week, but it has a great deal to do with the late Steve Jobs, Apple’s iconic former leader.

The headline in the New York Times is a shocker, “Steve Jobs Was A Low-Tech Parent.” Nick Bilton, writing in the disruptions columns of the paper writes, and I quote,

When Steve Jobs was running Apple, he was known to call journalists to either pat them on the back for a recent article or, more often than not, explain how they got it wrong. I was on the receiving end of a few of those calls [he writes]. But nothing shocked me more than something Mr. Jobs said to me in late 2010 after he had finished chewing me out for something I had written about an iPad shortcoming. “So, your kids must love the iPad?” I asked Mr. Jobs, trying to change the subject. The company’s first tablet was just hitting the shelves. “They haven’t used it,” he told me. “We limit how much technology our kids use at home.”

Bilton then writes,

I’m sure I responded with a gasp and dumbfounded silence. I had imagined the Jobs’s household was like a nerd’s paradise: that the walls were giant touch screens, the dining table was made from tiles of iPads and that iPods were handed out to guests like chocolates on a pillow. Nope, Mr. Jobs told me, not even close.

Bilton then writes,

Since then, I’ve met a number of technology chief executives and venture capitalists who say similar things: they strictly limit their children’s screen time, often banning all gadgets on school nights, and allocating ascetic time limits on weekends.

Nick Bilton says he was dumbfounded by the statement from Steve Jobs, and perplexed by the paradox of all these technology chief executives who do not allow their children and teenagers to have much access to the technologies they develop and then sell. Back to his article, he writes

Chris Anderson, the former editor of Wired and now chief executive of 3D Robotics, a drone maker, has instituted time limits and parental controls on every device in his home. “My kids accuse me and my wife of being fascists and overly concerned about tech, and they say that none of their friends have the same rules,” he said of his five children, [aged] 6 to 17. “That’s because we have seen the dangers of technology firsthand. I’ve seen it in myself, I don’t want to see that happen to my kids.”

Remember, that was said by Chris Anderson, the former editor of Wired magazine, now chief executive of yet another technology firm. Nick Bilton then writes and I quote,

The dangers he is referring to include exposure to harmful content like pornography, bullying from other kids, and perhaps worse of all, becoming addicted to their devices, [he then adds the words] just like their parents.

Later in the article Nick Bilton tells us that most of these technology executives believe that the age of their children and teenagers is of utmost importance.

Children under 10 seem to be most susceptible to becoming addicted, so these parents draw the line at not allowing any gadgets during the week. On weekends, there are limits of 30 minutes to two hours on iPad and smartphone use. And 10- to 14-year-olds are allowed to use computers on school nights, but only for homework.

These technology executives told Bilton they have very clear restrictions for both children and teenagers on social networks. Then Bilton writes,

There is one rule that is universal among the tech parents I polled. “This is rule No. 1: There are no screens in the bedroom. Period. Ever,”

Bilton ends his article by referring to a conversation he had with Walter Isaacson, the major biographers of Steve Jobs. Isaacson told Bilton

“Every evening Steve made a point of having dinner at the big long table in their kitchen, discussing books and history and a variety of things,” he said. “No one ever pulled out an iPad or computer. The kids did not seem addicted at all to devices.”

In his article Nick Bilton asked a very interesting question, what do these technology executives know that other parents don’t know? Well, the obvious answer to that question appears to be this: technology never comes without a cost, technology, as the late French theologian Jacques Ellul said, always comes with a price. And that price is always exacted, and that price is particularly high among the vulnerable, and these tech parents, executives all, seen be very concerned about the fact that when it comes to their children and teenagers, they are the most vulnerable – and given that vulnerability, parents have to take kinds of defensive action such as are revealed in this article. But one of the most important insights from this column by Nick Bilton is that these tech executives, as parents, not only know something that other parents seem not to know, more importantly they are also doing something that other parents apparently aren’t doing – they are setting clear limits, they are not allowing the children to set their own parameters in terms of the use of these technologies, and they are using a word that is all too foreign to many parents but all too necessary to children and teenagers. That’s that short two letter word – no. These tech executives, as parents, are revealing to the world by this article that they are accustomed to say no to their own children about the devices they themselves have invented and developed and are now marketing to the world. So here’s a wake-up call for all parents – if technology executives know something that you don’t know, you need to know it fast, and this article is a quick way to get there. But it’s not only about knowing something, that is the dangers of these technologies and the addictive nature of these technologies in the lives, especially of the young, but also that parents have to be ready to do something. So add this irony to the ironies of the day – Steve Jobs may have been a high-tech executive, but he was a low-tech parent.

–Albert Mohler

Friday’s Family Friendly Finds {September 26, 2014 edition}

We hope you have had a wonderful week. It has been crazy around here, but…well…that’s pretty much always true. As I often tell people, I’d rather be busy than bored. Right now, being bored is certainly not a problem.

With that said, on to this week’s family links.

Family Friendly Finds

This Week’s Finds

A Letter to My Children about Church Stuff {Preacher’s Pen}

Missing Moments Because of Screens? {for the family}

24 Video Games You Can Say “Yes” to After School {Common Sense Media}

The Four Best Places to Raise Your Kids {Daly Focus}

Building a Home Management Binder that Works for You {of the Hearth} (This post is a GREAT idea starter, and has a lot of free printables if you want to use some of her pages.)

3 Common Reasons Money Becomes a Marital WMD {for the family}

…and just for laughs: Something No Counselor Tells You about Marriage {Stuff Christians Like}

Our Week in Review

The following were our five most-viewed posts over the past week. These were not necessarily published in the last 7 days; they just drew the most views. (Original publication date in parentheses.)

#5: Keep Your Feet Moving (September 22, 2014)

#4: You Do Not Believe (September 16, 2014)

#3: A Great Resource for Serious Bible Students (September 25, 2014)

#2: 30 Life Lessons from “The Cosby Show” (September 24, 2014)

#1: I Want My Kids to Know Grace (September 23, 2014)

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A Great Resource for Serious Bible Students

I am always on the lookout for new ways to get good material, especially to help with my study of the Bible. Today, I want to share one that is both biblical and techie (but you don’t have to be techie to enjoy it).

The 66 Podcast

The resource is called “The 66 Podcast,” and it is a production of the Ashville Road church of Christ in Leeds, Alabama. Currently, just 13 episodes of the program have been produced, so you are not “too far behind” to catch up and enjoy the new material.

The idea behind The 66 Podcast is that the cohosts, Drew Kizer and Andrew Kingsley, walk through a particular book of the Bible over the course of three or four episodes. In each program, they do three things:

1. Read. While they do not actually “read” the text aloud, they provide a helpful outline with the overall picture of the text.

2. Think. In this–my favorite section–the two share insights into the text. Sometimes, these are word studies, while at other times they are historical connections. Often, there are points of reference to other sections of Scripture, too. This section lives up to its name, and makes you think.

3. Apply. Usually brief, this section gives 2 or 3 practical, modern-day applications that can be gained from the text under consideration for that program.

The show is about an hour in length, but it is produced only when Kizer and Kingsley are able do it; thus, it is not an hour every week. Currently, the 13 episodes available cover Ezra, Nehemiah, and Esther. I have listened to the programs on Ezra and look forward to starting Nehemiah in the coming days.

My favorite thing about this program is that these are not just rehashed sermons. The co-hosts are able to share solid, in-depth Bible study in a very casual way that you can enjoy while running, driving, or doing something else. The goal of the co-hosts is to eventually cover all 66 books of the Bible, no matter how long it might take. I hope they do, because the material is outstanding!

While The 66 is a podcast, you do not have to be a tech-geek to get this information from the programs. Simply visit the website, choose an episode, and click play. However, if you are a podcast person, jump over to iTunes or another “podcatcher” and subscribe. You will not regret it.

The 66 Podcast Website

The 66 Podcast iTunes link

30 Life Lessons from “The Cosby Show”

30 life lessons from the cosby show

Over the weekend, “The Cosby Show” celebrated the 30th anniversary of its debut on NBC. Yes, just typing that makes me feel old.

While this is not a perfect TV show, I believe it is the best regular series in this history of television. It was legitimately humorous, and didn’t feel the need to be scandalous. It was morally clean almost all the way through, and even gave families something positive to talk about, instead of trying to sheepishly avoid certain topics usually discussed on television.

So, in honor of the 30th anniversary of “The Cosby Show,” today we share with you 30 life lessons. Some are humorous and some are serious, but all are better learned wearing a colorful sweater and with cool jazz playing in the background.

Enjoy!

1. Respect Your Grandparents. One of the greatest aspects of the program was how often the grandparents were involved in the lives of the children. They were present for the major events in life, and were always talked about with respect.

2. Never Let Your Sister Make Your Clothing. A Gorden Gartrelle shirt–or Ichy Amarada–or whatever should never be left in the hands of someone with so little experience.

3. Reading is a Key Part of Life. I love the emphasis in the show on reading and learning. Cliff and Claire were constantly reading books or magazines, and the children were often told to “go to the library.”

4. Husbands and Wives Should Stay Romantic. Flirting was constant between Dr. and Mrs. Huxtable, and they were always doing things for one another. Such should be the case with husbands and wives. Keep the romance bright!

5. Kids are Rich, but Not with Money. “Your mother and I are rich; you have nothing.” What a great line! But, the children were also told that they were rich, just not with things. They were rich in love and relationships.

6. Be “the House” that Others Want to Visit. Almost every episode featured someone coming to the house. Some were family. Some were friends. Some were friends of friends. And they were people of all ages. I want to be “that house”–the one people just feel drawn to by hospitality.

7. Education is Invaluable. The final episode is Theo’s college graduation, and the show constantly focuses on the schooling (elementary, high school, and college) of the children. The parents regularly talk about their own college experiences. They build in their children a love of learning.

8. Volunteer in Your Community. In later years, the show featured Cliff and Claire helping at a local community center. This “giving back” was a key message of the show, and one more people could take to heart.

9. Zrbtts are Great Signs of Affection. What is a zrbtt? It is blowing on the cheek of someone you love, instead of kissing them. While zrbtts were seen early in the show, there was a touching scene near the end of the last season where a now-teen Rudy zrbtts her dad to show her affection.

10. Talk about Family Heritage Often. I love how often family stories are told, and how family heirlooms are part of the weaving together of the show. Doing this helps children feel grounded and part of something larger than themselves.

11. “The Government Comes for the Regular People First.” Monopoly money and a boy who thinks he has it all figured out. When Cliff teaches Theo that taxes come off the top of a paycheck, life starts to sink in for the boy.

12. Dads are to be Old Yeller. Cliff was famous for how “rough” he was on the boyfriends of his daughters. His explanation? “I’m like Old Yeller.” Boys will be careful when they come by that house. (Of course, he’s then reminded that, at the end of the movie, “They shot Old Yeller.”)

13. Celebrate Purity. We are never shown “the talk,” but it is obvious that it was given. When a decision for purity was made, it was celebrated. When Cliff finds out that Denise was a virgin on her wedding night, he celebrates. Would that every parent had this same attitude!

14. Spend Time with Children. I love the interaction that the family has with children. There are so many episodes where kids are being treated to something nice (dinner, a show, or just a party) by the Huxtables. While the kids are not in charge, they are being shown that they are special, and are gaining life skills through this intentional time.

15. Wear Old Clothes when Buying a Car.

16. When You Try too Hard to Impress a Girl, It Will Backfire. The more Theo tries to impress girls, the more it blows up in his face. From trying to talk more mature to opening his shirt to show his manly physique, it just never works. When he is just himself, he gets the girl.

17. It’s Okay to Say the Word “Cancer.” One of the more poignant episodes is when a friend of Theo’s is in the hospital with cancer. Theo can’t bring himself to say the “c word” until the friend says it to him. I like the humanity of that exchange.

18. Go to Church. While church was not a focus of the program, they did not hide it, either. There are a few episodes set in church, and they talk regularly about going. Would that more programs at least mentioned church in a positive light.

19. “Go Discover America” is Not a Bad Thing to Tell Your Got-It-All-Figured-Out Teenager. This may be Leah’s favorite line ever on the show.

20. Modesty is Important. When Vanessa and her friends form a new girl group, they select outfits that have them “flinging parts from one end to the other.” The simple statement from Claire is to go “put some clothes on.” Amen!

21. Junk Food is a Man’s Best Friend. Cliff and junk food. How many running jokes did this show have about hoagies, chips, and desserts? And he was a doctor!

22. Sometimes–Not Often, but Sometimes–You Have to Tell Your Kids Exactly What’s On Your Mind. When Vanessa and her friends lie and travel to see the band The Wretched, she is left with no question as to how her parents feel about it.

23. Get Away Sometimes. Cliff and Claire live in a house with five children (and more people as they years go by). Yet, they took the time to go on dates, take vacations, and have get-aways. Every couple needs these times to reconnect and unwind.

24. The Salary of Early 1900s Coal Miners Will Mean a Lot to You When You Have Children. I love how Cliff often tells his kids what people earned before he was even born. It was a way to help them appreciate what they have without complaining.

25. It is Okay for Parents to Laugh at Themselves. There was a lot of laughter in the Huxtable house, and sometimes it was the parents realizing they had done something dumb. That’s okay. However……..

26. It is Not Okay for Parents to Lose Control of the House. One of the major features of “The Cosby Show” was that the kids did not run the household. There was never a question as to who was in charge, and that needs to be reinforced in our homes today.

27. Talk. A Lot. Have you noticed how often the TV was on in the show? It wasn’t much. But there were a lot of conversation around the dinner table or sitting on the couch.

28. When You Argue, Make Up Quickly. In one episode, Cliff and Claire argue and decide to go to bed angry (for the first time in their marriage). It only takes part of the next day before they make up. While the way in which they make up may be a bit strange (“desk dancing” over the phone), it just shows that couples need to make up quickly instead of letting bitterness grow.

29. Make Your Home the Safest Place in Your Child’s Life. In reality, outside of the humor, I think this is the overall message I take away from “The Cosby Show.” The kids just want to be at home, because they feel connected and safe.

30. Lip-Syncing is a Perfectly Acceptable Form of Entertainment. Just watch the video. It is, in my mind, the single greatest scene in the history of American comedic television.

By the way, if you have never bought the 8 seasons on “The Cosby Show” on DVD, do so! Enjoy them with your family. Here’s a link to the first 2 seasons for less than $10.

QUESTION: What is your favorite “life lesson” from “The Cosby Show?” Share yours in the comments below!

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I Want My Kids to Know Grace

I want my kids to know grace

I am 41, married, and have three children, ages 13, 10, and 7. I am a Christian. I am ready for Jesus to come today. I am ready not because I am perfect, but because I have obeyed the gospel according to the grace of God. I am also ready because I will admit I have some safety about it in my mind. You see, my wife is a Christian, my oldest son is a Christian, and my two youngest are still sinless and therefore safe. The 10 year-old is heading to the place where innocence will soon be lost. But for now, I have the selfish confidence of knowing that according to God’s promises my family will live in heaven eternally.

After I was diagnosed with cancer, I began to almost beg for Jesus to come back. I did not like the prospects of dying and leaving my family without a husband and father. I knew that if He were to return, everything would be solved. This is my human side. I know that in reality, for every Christian, whether Jesus comes today or 10,000 years from now – the minute He comes everything will be better.

But I would like to share with you a thought I have had for years now concerning my kids. In their younger years they have no worries about anything spiritually because they have no sin. What a comfort for a parent to know that all of their children are going to heaven! It is easy for me to pray for Christ to come right now when my children cannot be lost!

However, there is one thing I think I want my children to know that I now know. It’s called “Grace.” I love God now more than I ever have before because of grace. I know I am wretched and worthless, and my lacking state of righteousness is like a filthy rag in the presence of the holy and perfect God of heaven. But knowing just how sinful and weak I am helps me to understand the power of God’s love that can only be felt by the incomprehensible nature of His matchless grace.

Until one has sinned, one cannot understand grace. I would love my children to remain innocent forever. But God foresaw in creating mankind that man would be blessed by His grace. This doesn’t mean God wanted man to fall. It hurts God every time we sin. But God makes good things from bad. It is never right to sin. And yet the grace of God has the power to turn my worst mistake into my greatest victory. Through grace God has revealed more about Himself than we could have known had we remained perfect.

I want my children to know that even though they sin, God loves them anyway. I want my children to know that even though they don’t like themselves sometimes, God loves them anyway. I want my children to know that even though they don’t deserve to live in heaven, God loves them anyway. I want my children to know that even though they are less than what they want to be, and sometimes they are ready to completely give up, and even in a time when they have turned their backs on God and left Him completely, God loves them anyway. Because when they figure out what grace is all about, they will have the capacity to love and be loved like never before. And God is calling all of us to that kind of love and He is doing so only through grace.

It would still be best if Jesus would come back in the next ten seconds. But if God chooses to wait another 2,000 years, then I want my children’s children to know everything there is to know about God’s grace. Because to this point, I know of nothing more amazing.

“…that He would grant you, according to the riches of His glory, to be strengthened with might through His Spirit in the inner man, that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith; that you, being rooted and grounded in love, may be able to comprehend with all the saints what is the width and length and depth and height— to know the love of Christ which passes knowledge; that you may be filled with all the fullness of God.”

– Ephesians 3:16-19

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Keep Your Feet Moving

keep your feet moving

With football season in full swing, I am reminded of a “tip” I received from my old football coaches. Let me rephrase that. It wasn’t a tip; it was a command that was said with the authority of somebody who let me know, in no uncertain terms, that there was a place on the bench for me if I failed to do what he said.

It still rings in my ears — Keep your feet moving!

My coaches knew the importance of that. They also knew the importance of constantly reminding me (and others) of that.

You see, it is almost automatic to stop moving your feet when you hit somebody head on. You’ve just run into somebody as big and strong (or bigger and stronger) than you, and your first thought is to stop, regain your composure, and get set to exert more energy in order to reach the goal you’re trying to reach.

As soon as you do that, you’ve lost any momentum you’ve had up to that point. Your upper body and/or arm strength is not nearly as effective if your feet are not moving. Who knows what might happen if you keep your feet moving. If you’re a defensive player trying to tackle the ball carrier, you might just get by the player who is trying to keep you from doing that. If you’re the one carrying the ball, a hole might just open up that will allow you to make a huge gain or even score a touchdown. The likelihood of those things (or any other good thing) happening is diminished greatly if a player stops moving his feet.

In Philippians 3:14, Paul reminds us of the importance of keeping our feet moving. The way he put it was: “I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus” (ESV).

Did Paul have his setbacks? Were there those who wanted to keep him from advancing the cause of Christ? Was he sometimes “stopped dead in his tracks?” The answer to all of those questions is an obvious “Yes.” At the same time, Paul kept his feet moving. He never gave up, never gave out, and never gave in. He kept trying to make progress, even when it seemed impossible for him to do so.

Because he kept his feet moving, Paul was able to write toward the end of his life, “I have fought a good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith” (2 Tim. 4:7, ESV). If we’ll keep our feet moving, we can look back on our lives in the same way.

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Friday’s Family Friendly Finds {September 18, 2014 edition}

It is time for more family links! We hope you enjoy this weekly feature, as we enjoy sharing with you some of what caught our eye over the last few days.

Here’s this week’s slate of family links.

Family Friendly Finds

This Week’s Finds

3 Practical Ways to Bless Your Spouse {for the family}

Reducing Stress {The Morning Drive}

Is Spanking Child Abuse? {Focus on the Family}

Your Emergency Fund is for More Than Emergencies — Believe It! {ChristianPF}

The Value of Training {National Center for Biblical Parenting}

Our Week in Review

The following were our five most-viewed posts over the past week. These were not necessarily published in the last 7 days; they just drew the most views. (Original publication date in parentheses.)

#5: Hymn Reflection: “How Deep the Father’s Love for Us” (July 5, 2013)

#4: A Response to Victoria Osteen about Worship (September 2, 2014)

#3: Transgender Children’s Book. Surprised? You Shouldn’t Be. (September 17, 2014)

#2: You Do Not Believe (September 16, 2014)

#1: Our Tearful Announcement (September 15, 2014)

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Episode 5 : Our Thoughts on “Smart Money, Smart Kids” {Podcast}

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Welcome to episode 5 of A Legacy of Faith’s podcast. In this program, Adam and Leah take a few minutes to review their impressions of Rachel Cruze and Dave Ramsey’s book Smart Money, Smart Kids. We also share how we are not perfect at following these principles, but how the overall message of this book can help you and your family.

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Our Takeaways

1. Children need to be taught the “opportunity cost” of money. Once they have spend money, they cannot spend it somewhere else.

2. Kids need to learn to work, and that money comes from doing a job well.

3. Help children continue with their natural tendency toward giving.

4. Breaking the cycle of student loans can break the entire cycle of debt in your family tree.

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Music Credit

Opening theme: “Josie Has the Upper Hand” by Josh Woodward

Closing theme: “Afterglow” by Josh Woodward

Next Episode (October 2, 2014): “Teaching Kids about Worship”