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“Sir, We Need Your Permission To…”

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It is a fear of every parent. All of us who have children at home and those of us who have children who have their own families dread a call informing us of a serious injury and/or illness.

A few years ago, a friend of mine received one of those calls. His seventeen-year-old daughter had been involved in an automobile accident. 

Fortunately, the injuries she sustained did not appear to be serious, but the doctors wanted to make sure. The father was told that he had to give his consent before his daughter could be treated.

Of course, he quickly gave his consent. The appropriate testing and treatment was done. His daughter recovered.

Please think with me a moment. Can you think of any procedure for which an “under-age” girl does not need parental consent and/or notification? Can you think of such a procedure that will definitely result in death? 

Are you aware of the fact that some of our states will allow a girl who is under the age of eighteen to abort a child she is carrying without any requirement to notify her parents and/or get their consent? Are you aware of the fact that there is a growing drumbeat of support for making this the policy of our entire nation? 

Interestingly, and alarmingly enough, the website of Planned Parenthood provides information for a variety of “work-arounds” for young ladies who happen to live in a state that requires parental permission/notification. I suppose one should expect that from our nation’s largest abortion provider. 

Is it just me, or is there something terribly wrong with this sort of “logic?” What kind of sense does it make to demand parental permission to treat what appears to be a relatively minor injury while, at the same time, allowing an unborn child’s life to be terminated with no such demands or restrictions?

I pray that you will think about that.

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Episode 43: Making Memories in the Midst of a Busy Life (with Dale Jenkins) [Podcast]

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Families are busy, but how can we remain busy and active, yet build memories for our children? On today’s podcast, Dale Jenkins joins Adam and shares five fantastic points on how to be intentional with our time, as well as with building memories for our children.

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Opening theme: “Josie Has the Upper Hand” by Josh Woodward

Closing theme: “Afterglow” by Josh Woodward

Where Love Abides

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I grew up in a very small home – one living room, a kitchen, two bedrooms, and a small bath. There were four of us living in that space which was probably, at most, one thousand square feet. I don’t recall feeling cramped or poor, but I’m sure we were at times. What I do recall are meals around a small table, a warm bed with clean sheets, listening to music on the record player in the living room, and laughter as we sat and talked with one another.

Jim grew up in a home which was about the same size as the one where I grew up, but it was a much older home. Since he had no brothers or sisters, there were only three people in their home. I have never heard him talk in a negative way about his childhood home. When I began dating Jim and visited in his home, I recall a happy place that was always neat, clean and comfortable.

Last week our children and their families came to our new, smaller home to spend a few days with us and enjoy the Thanksgiving holiday. I’m ashamed to tell you how much I worried about not having enough space for everyone. 

You see, four months ago we sold our 5 bedroom, 3 bath home and downsized to a 3 bedroom, 2 bath home. We went from 2600 square feet down to just under 1600 square feet. I was convinced that our time together with our family could not possibly be as much fun as it had been before because we would all be crammed together in that small home – eleven of us.

I was so wrong. I learned some valuable lessons.

A sunroom turned into a bunkhouse where all the grandkids sleep on blow up mattresses is lots of fun and a memory they will always have to share.

Thoughtful children who planned a fun program of performances by each of the children and grandchildren for our enjoyment are so precious to us no matter where they take place.

Laughter sounds great everywhere.

Games are just as much fun whether they are played in a big house or a small one.

Singing sounds just as beautiful no matter what size the room is.

Quiet, late-night conversation among the adults is just as precious no matter where it takes place.

A daughter and a daughter-in-law are just as helpful in a smaller kitchen as they were in a larger one.

I need to always remember my roots and the lessons I learned in that small childhood home.

It is very important to be grateful for that with which we have been blessed – large or small.

Where love abides, the size of the home doesn’t matter.

“…foxes have holes, and birds of the air have nests, but the Son of Man has nowhere to lay His head.”  Matthew 8:20

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Yes, Pro- Choice IS Pro- Abortion

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Recently, a photo made the rounds on social media (especially Facebook) that showed total ignorance of the whole pro-choice movement. The main part of the pictured stated, “Pro-Choice Does Not Mean Pro-Abortion.” The picture’s caption then stated, “It simply means that it’s none of our business what a woman decides.”

Of course, the picture has been shared and “liked” thousands of times. After all, who are we to tell a woman what to do with her body? How can I possibly tell a woman that she should–or should not–terminate the pregnancy when I do not know her experience (either in how she became pregnant or in how this baby might/would alter her life)?

To many, this seems like a good argument. They say that they are not pro-abortion; rather, they are just pro-choice. They are not necessarily for or against abortion, but a woman should be allowed to choose for herself. It’s her body, after all.

I’ll say it bluntly: this is nothing short of cowardice!

By refusing to make a stand for the baby inside the womb, those who are “just” pro-choice are absolutely pro-abortion. The baby cannot defend his/her rights, so someone else must stand up for that child and defend him/her.

Let’s turn this to another argument to see the logic (or lack thereof). Let’s say that a local school decided to have prayer before a school assembly and I thought that was totally wrong. However, I never said anything about it. Would I be shocked that the assembly still opened with a prayer?

I’d be foolish to be shocked–or even upset–for one simple reason: I didn’t stand up clearly for what I believed! (Obviously, I wish that every school function started with prayer. No emails, please!)

We have turned our culture into one where the ultimate sin is offending someone and the ultimate “good” is to just not take a side. By doing so, however, we are taking sides. To not stand up and speak is to take a side. In the case of abortion, not taking sides costs us about 1,000,000 lives every year.

The book of Revelation teaches us that, among others, the “cowardly” are among those who “will be in the lake that burns with fire and sulfur” (Revelation 21:8). The reason is simple: by not standing for something, we allow it go on unabated.

Of course, Christians should not resort to violence or insult to stand up, but stand up we must! You see, the blood of almost 60,000,000 babies (let that number sink in for a second) since Roe vs. Wade is not only on the hands of the pro-abortion crowd. The blood of those babies is also on the hands of those who refused to stand up for those precious children.

 

We need more people with a backbone. In the abortion debate, there simply is no middle ground. One is either for life, or that person is for murder. It is not possible to say that one is pro-choice, but is not pro-abortion.

By not choosing a side, one has chosen. And the choice is death for about a million children every year.

Cowardice looks a lot like bloodshed.

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Episode 42: Christmas Gift Ideas to Encourage Family Devotionals [Podcast]

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Do you have a family on your Christmas list that you want to encourage with a gift? How about encouraging them with a Christmas gift that will help them with their family devotional.

On today’s program, Adam shares several ideas of gifts that will encourage a family in their home devotionals. These gifts are inexpensive, but will be treasured.

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The Altitude of Gratitude

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I’ve said it. I’ve heard it said countless times. And, for some reason, nearly every time I have heard it or said it myself, it seems to be spoken in a way that makes it sound cool. It’s the phrase “attitude of gratitude.”

It’s catchy. It rhymes.

And it is important. It is a powerful thing that we cultivate that attitude in our lives; an attitude that shows thanksgiving more and more often. It is a difficult attitude to have on a constant basis, but it leads to something even greater.

It leads to the altitude of gratitude.

We never soar higher in our lives than when we are people who are regularly grateful. People who are filled with thanksgiving are more humble. They shine grace. They get rewarded in life (though that is not what they are seeking). They regularly have healthier relationships.

And they have that peace that passes all understanding, promised to all true believers (Philippians 4:6-7).

While being grateful is its own reward, if you struggle with cultivating an attitude of gratitude, remember where it can take you. You will rise higher in the depths of your soul if you will build that thankful spirit.

You’ll rise in the altitude of gratitude, and soar ever higher.

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AUTHOR: Adam Faughn

Will You Trade Places with Me?

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About a month ago, we had a native of Antigua, Guatemala as a guest speaker where I preach. During his lesson, our brother made what seemed to be an off-hand remark. It didn’t seem “scripted.” It just seemed to happen.

At one point in his presentation, he was talking about our nation. He shared with us his opinion that we are blessed to live in the greatest nation in the world. He made it clear that his opinion was that of an “outsider.” Brother Isaacs was also talking about the fact that he is not a citizen of our nation. 

During the portion of his presentation in which he was talking about our nation, he made a couple of statements and asked a question that still rings in my ears. His statements were to let us know that he is, in fact, not a citizen of the United States and that he would like to be. It was at that point that he looked at one of our members and delivered the “off the cuff remark” that has stuck with me ever since:

“Will you trade places with me?

I thought that, just before our national holiday we call Thanksgiving Day, it might be a good time to remind all of us that there are millions, if not billions, of people in the world who would trade places with any one of us in a heartbeat. That, in itself, is something for which to be thankful. 

I am very well aware of the fact that, as a nation, we have drifted a long, long way from the moorings that were dear to our Founding Fathers as they began this grand experiment called “The United States of America.” At the same time, I am also well aware of the fact that we are, indeed, blessed more than many of us realize to be able to be citizens of this wonderful nation. Hopefully, our brother’s remark will help us to express our gratitude to God every day for blessing us so richly. Hopefully, too, it will encourage us to pray and work in order to make this a nation which is, in fact, under God. That will be my prayer this Thanksgiving Day.

I hope that you and your family have a wonderful day this Thursday. I hope that the day will help you to remember all of your blessings and the One who is responsible for them.

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A Master Grocery List for Busy Moms {Free Printable}

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On A Legacy of Faith, we want to help families, and one of our goals is to help families “survive the day.” Today, I have something to help with that.

As a wife and mother, I have a lot of responsibility on my shoulders, and one of those responsibilities is making sure supper gets on the table every night. It is something that I am trying to take more seriously. 

You know as well as I do that getting supper on the table every night actually begins with a menu plan and a good grocery list. Maybe it’s just me, but more often than not, I have the kids with me at the store. Usually, I have tried to jot down a few things that I know that we are out of. We walk down the aisles and put things into the buggy.

Then we walk back down the aisles to get all of the things that I suddenly remembered are not on my list.

After we finally get home, of course, I remember one or two or three things that I need (possibly even for supper that night). 

The problem is that I never want to take the time to make a grocery list. There, I admitted it. I am so impatient that when it is time to go the store, I just don’t want to wait and take the time to make a list, so I decide to just go on to the store and “wing” it.

Then, it never fails, I have forgotten something. I know I could make a list ahead of time–the night before perhaps–but (I’ll make another admission here) I am a procrastinator so, of course, I don’t make a list until the last possible moment.

To help remedy this recurring problem, I decided that having a “master grocery list” would help me survive the day. I just thought of everything that I ever buy at the grocery store. I tried to group the items by categories that made sense to the layout of the store in which I buy most of my groceries. Every family’s master grocery list would look different, but I made mine tailored to my family and the way we eat. I am sure that it will change over time as we discover new favorite foods and meals, and I may notice that I forgot to add things to mine.

I understand that some people may not think that things like this are a big deal, but I am one of those women who take this role seriously, and I am always looking for ways to help me be more efficient. I really think this will help me manage my home, and I hope that it helps bring more order into our home.

I hope this simple thing will help your family. You can click on the image below to view/download my list, or just use it as inspiration to create your own. Enjoy…and happy (organized) shopping!

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(Keep in mind, we do not purchase everything on this list every week. This is meant to give us a guide to the things we try to always have on hand in our home.)

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Holiday Suffering or Holiday Cheer?

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When the apostle Paul wrote by inspiration to the church at Corinth, he sadly had to discipline them concerning their improper observance of the Lord’s Supper. In 1 Corinthians 11:17 he begins such a discussion by saying, “Now in giving these instructions I do not praise you, since you come together not for the better but for the worse.” They had been commanded to come together by the Lord, but they were dishonoring the feast. You see, it is entirely possible for us to assemble for all of the right reasons while doing all of the wrong things. If this were to be the case, it would be better for not to assemble at all.

With this in mind, I think about the coming of the holiday season. There will be more “coming together” in the next two months than during any other time of year. Whether they be family gatherings, office parties, or joining with friends, there will be a great deal of assembling. I think in the midst of all of it, we might want to remember why we are going to be gathering in the first place.

Hopefully, we won’t be gathering out of a sense of obligation. Usually about mid-November I start hearing the horror stories of families who are dealing with dreadful turmoil anticipating the “well we have to do this so let’s get it over with” holiday season. What’s the point? Are we really accomplishing anything running to 5 or 6 different places just trying to make sure nobody is offended? Are we really going to force false holiday greetings when there has been no desire to reconcile problems and conflicts in a meaningful way for perhaps years at a time? If we are coming together let’s do it because everyone wants to. How does God feel when people decide to visit His house because they feel obligated?

Hopefully, we won’t be gathering out of a sense of social or vocational pressure. How many Christians will attend office gatherings and other social holiday parties where things will be going on that they completely disagree with from a moral standpoint? Is our desire for popularity or our hope to move up the business ladder worth sacrificing what we believe? Will we subject ourselves to problems and temptations and say that we are doing this all in the name of Jesus? If you make a decision to attend any questionable social event, are you naïve enough to think that your influence and your Christian walk will go forward unaffected? Again, how does God feel when His blood-bought people choose to cash in their eternal inheritance by refusing to be separated from the world?

Hopefully, we won’t be gathering out of a sense of materialism. Christmastime can become the perfect monetary storm that delivers a family to financial ruin if they are not careful. The constant pressure from society to buy and buy and buy some more is a relentless wave of deception that will eventually bring us and our bank account to our knees. And what for? Does the health of our relationships with family and friends hinge upon how much money we are foolishly spending? Are we really so enamored with the physical world that our happiness depends on how many gifts were given and or received on December 25th? Will God be pleased with people who are possessed with possessions more than they are with the spiritual and eternal blessings He has freely given to us all?

Paul told the Corinthians in essence that they were ruining the most wonderful time of the week because their priorities and activities were completely out of control! In the same way, what we often call “the most wonderful time of the year” can become the most terrible time of the year if we forget why we are coming together. We need to be dedicated to the principle of gathering for the better and not for the worse. If we assemble, let’s do it to bless one another and let’s gather to the glory of God!

“God is greatly to be feared in the assembly of the saints, and to be held in reverence by all those around Him.” – Psalm 89:7

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Salty or Seasoned with Salt?

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Have you ever heard anybody’s speech/language described as “salty?” You don’t hear that expression as much as has been the case in the past. What it usually is referring to is what could also be described as “very colorful language.” In other words, we are talking about something that is, at best, questionable and, at worst, vulgar.

In those days when this expression was more common, “salty language” was offensive to most people. To be sure, there were those who thought it was cute, funny, etc., but most people were turned off by both the language and the person using it.

All of this came to mind when I recently thought of Paul’s admonition to Christians in Colossians 4:6:

Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you ought to answer each person.

I believe it is fairly obvious that Paul was not advocating rude, crude, vulgar, offensive, and/or suggestive language. What, then, could he have meant?

The answer may be found in our Lord’s dealing with the person we sometimes refer to as the “woman at the well” (cf. John 4:4ff). As you read this account of His earthly ministry, you will notice that He was critical of both her lifestyle and her religion. He made it very clear that He approved of neither.

However, He was able to discuss these matters with her in a way that did not offend her. Instead, He was able to communicate in a way that turned her into one of His “promoters.” It could be said that His discussion of “living water” made her thirsty for something she did not have. 

Speech that is gracious–seasoned with salt–has a way of doing that. Salty language does not!

As I interact with people, I need to ask myself whether my speech and my lifestyle create in others a desire to know more about Jesus or if they alienate people. Do I give people hope or do I make them feel hopeless? Do I offer help or do I write people off?

How about you? Is your speech salty or is it seasoned with salt?

The eternal destiny of others–and yourself–may depend on your answer.

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