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Episode 78: Lads to Leaders 2017 [Podcast]

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On this week’s podcast, Adam and Leah are joined by some very special guests to talk about Lads to Leaders and why we are looking forward to going in a few days.

Below, you will find several resources about Lads to Leaders to help you think about this good program for your family or the congregation where you worship.

Resources

Lads to Leaders [homepage]

Lads to Leaders Facebook Page

How Lads to Leaders Can Help Families” [A Legacy of Faith; May 15, 2015]

A Tool for Growing Families” [The Colley House; April 9, 2010]

Five Minutes with Bartimaeus” [blog post about “Bartimaeus” event at Lads to Leaders; A Legacy of Faith; April 6, 2016]

Resource: Advanced Bible Reader from Apologetics Press” [Advanced Bible Reader can be done as a Lads to Leaders event; A Legacy of Faith; June 29, 2016]

A Family Challenge: Memorize and Entire Book of the Bible” [Podcast]

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Legacy Recipe: Low Carb Taco Bake [Free Printable]

If you are on a low carb eating plan, or have ever thought about cutting down on carbs in your diet, I thought you might like this little recipe which is one of our favorites. Hope you enjoy it too!!!

LOW CARB TACO BAKE

CRUST:

4 oz. cream cheese (softened)

3 eggs

1/3 cup heavy cream (no substitutes)

½ tsp. taco seasoning

8 oz. shredded cheddar cheese

Beat the cream cheese and eggs until smooth. 

Add the cream and seasonings.

Grease a 9×13 baking dish and spread the shredded cheese over the bottom of the dish.

Pour egg mixture evenly over the cheese.

Bake at 375 for 25 minutes.  Let stand 5 minutes before adding the topping.

TOPPING:

1 pound ground beef

3 tsps. Taco seasoning

I can Rotel tomatoes (drained well)

¼ cup chopped onion (optional)

8 oz. shredded cheddar cheese

Brown the hamburger; drain the fat. 

Stir in the seasoning and Rotel.

Spread over the crust and top with shredded cheese.

Reduce the oven to 350 and bake another 15-20 minutes until hot and bubbly.

Serve with toppings of your choice.

Makes 8 servings @ 2.5 net carbs

Can be frozen.

Optional toppings:

¼ cup shredded lettuce

1 Tbs. sour cream

1 Tbs. salsa

Ripe olives

Switch to Italian seasoning and mozzarella cheese and have your version of pizza!

Hope you enjoy it as much as we do!!!

Click the image below for a free printable version of this recipe.

Some Thoughts on Sending Personal Notes

Over the last few months, I have been making an effort to send more cards with personal notes inside. I still am nowhere near as good at is as I need to be, but I’m working on it. (In fact, that’s why I’m writing this post…to hold myself accountable!)

[Side Note: I do have one major excuse for not writing cards, by the way. My handwriting is awful. In fact, the only “C” I ever got in school was in 5th-grade in handwriting. The problem goes way back! In fact, it is not uncommon for me to have someone tell me something like, “Thank you for the card. I couldn’t quite make out all it said, but I say your name.”]

Oh well. It’s the thought that counts, right?

Despite my horrible handwriting, I have gotten some pleasure out of sending cards. Further, my business cards are the type that “open up” like a card, so I can leave a short handwritten note on the inside. I like that personal touch, so it is not just a “dry” business card, but is personal for that attempted visit.

May I encourage all of us to send more handwritten cards? Here are 3 reasons why a handwriten card or note means so much.

Personal. This is a card to you and a note to you. Even if is a short note as you recover from surgery that could be similar (or virtually the same) as one sent to another person, it is still your name and your card. It means the sender sees you as a person and wants this note to be to you. That means something very special.

Thoughtful. The note may be short or long. But you do not commit to writing a card without thinking at least a little bit about what you want to say. If the message is nothing more than “thinking of you and praying for you today,” you know the thought behind that message is real. As much as I write (sermons, bulletin articles, this blog), I will admit that I am not very good at the wording of the cards I write. Still, I will also admit that thought goes into each one.

They Represent Time. I suppose the main reason people do not send cards is that it takes time to do so. It is faster to type out an email (which is not bad sometimes) or tap an emoji to someone. A card, however, takes a little work. The thought, the writing process, addressing the envelope, putting on the stamp, and placing it in the mail. No matter how short or long the note, though, it took time for that person to think of you and send that note. It means a great deal.

As I said, I am not good at this yet, but I am finding that I enjoy it more than I used to. I am still very hit-and-miss on the “types” of cards I send (for example, I will send to some who are sick, but then fall off the wagon and not send to others), but I’m trying to do better. I currently keep a box of these cards on my desk to remind me to get to it!

So…if you’ll excuse me, I’ll be writing a couple of cards today.

How about you?


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AUTHOR: Adam Faughn

[Quote] C.S. Lewis on the “Danger” of Love

Source: (quoted in) The Meaning of Marriage by Timothy and Kathy Keller

Doing Great

One of my favorite ways to relax is to read a good book. It is my way of escape from thinking about lesson plans, IEPs, laundry, and many other seemingly mundane tasks of daily life. When I read, I am guilty of totally leaving my current surroundings and the people there. That is one reason I mostly read at night!

I have recently been re-reading a series of books written by Lynn Austin based on the reigns of several Old Testament kings. In the books, Austin freely admits that much of the storyline is fictional, but she has researched life in that time and part of the world and added that to the Biblical record to make for some thought-provoking novels. For one thing, it makes the reader want to go back and re-examine the Old Testament to see which parts are fictional and which parts are factual!

In Among the Gods (Chronicles of the Kings Book #5), I came across this quote that really made me think:

All of us would like to believe that we could accomplish one brave, selfless act for God and for His kingdom. But it takes greater courage to faithfully accomplish the daily, thankless tasks of everyday life for Him— being a father to our children, a good husband to our wives, building His temple one laborious block at a time.

I fear that I am so guilty of this! I want to do something great for God, but am I doing great with the jobs He has given me to do in my daily life? Am I being the Christian wife the Bible tells me to be? How am I doing in raising my children for the Lord? Am I shining God’s light to those around me at work? Am I loving my students in a way that will make them want to know what makes me different?

Instead of looking for something big or amazing to do, maybe I should just get busy doing what God has given me to do in an amazing way that brings glory to Him.

“Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with your might …” (Ecclesiastes 9:10)
Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men…” (Colossians 3:23)


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AUTHOR: Amber Tatum

5 Questions Preachers’ Wives Ask Regularly

Literally my whole life, I have been around preachers’ wives. My mom was one for more than 30 years. My sister is one. And, of course, I am married to one. I have also had the privilege of being around many other preachers and their wives throughout the years, and these couples are some of the finest people on earth.

Being a preacher is wonderful, yet stressful. But being the wife of a preacher carries a weight that few can imagine (I guess, maybe, elders’ wives can relate, but that’s about it).

Today, I want to share with you some of the things that precious lady carries on her mind constantly, so that you can pray for her and encourage her. I would venture to say that most preachers’ wives ask themselves the following five questions almost daily.

“Am I Doing Enough?” Very few, if any, preachers’ wives do not ask this question constantly. They are wondering if they are teaching enough classes, helping with enough programs, hosting enough people in their home, and so on. While few other ladies stop to ask this, the preachers’ wife wears this question on her shoulders with every decision. She does not want to disappoint others, but she is also weary from what she is involved in.

“Are We Going to Have to Move?” Even if they have been in one location for 10 years or more, this thought goes through her mind. Because she’s heard all the stories of preachers who were fired “out of the blue,” even after many years at a congregation. She loves making her house a home, but she lives with the constant thought that one decision, one influential member’s hurt feelings, or one change in the eldership could mean she’s packing it all up…again.

“What Do People Think of Me as a Mother?” Trust me: if your preacher and his wife have children, she wonders what you think of her. She is thinking that every decision (to take the child out and spat his little hand or not; to homeschool or to send to public school; to let kids play ball or not) is going to be critiqued, and those who do not agree with the decision will think less of her. Whether or not this is true, she carries that with her the whole time the kids are under her roof.

“When is Our Time?” Preaching is demanding on time. He needs to prepare sermons and classes, of course, but “ministry” also needs to happen, and it’s not always 9-to-5. Sometimes, that’s in the evenings. Other times, it is late at night or early in the morning. She knows where her husband is, but she sometimes wonders how long he’s going to stay out. And while he’s out, she carries the responsibility of the home, and a feeling of loneliness.

“Can I Have a True Friend?” You may not think this is a real concern, but it is. Many preachers’ wives are worried about getting too close to anyone, for fear of how others might perceive it. She thinks that if she is close friends with one person, then someone else will feel slighted. Also, she wonders how much she can share about the stresses of her life without sounding like she is whining, or without coming across as a gossip.

I am grateful for preachers’ wives. I am grateful to be married to the finest one on earth, but I also know the struggles that come with that role. While it is not an official position, many people place expectations on the preachers’ wife nonetheless, as if there were some handbook somewhere that she is to follow.

For each lady who stands beside her husband as he faithfully proclaims the Word of God, I thank you.

And to my wife who supports me in prayer, thought, and action daily…I love you.


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AUTHOR: Adam Faughn

I Had No Idea

The lady in the picture with me is a new Facebook friend. Until very recently, I only knew Jane Humphrey as a nice lady who worked in an insurance office. I had spoken to her on the phone and talked with her in person about “business stuff,” but I had no idea about how much we had in common.

Those who read A Legacy of Faith may remember that one of my recent posts was about a man by the name of Robert Waller. [Read that post here if you missed it.The post included a picture I had taken of brother Waller and our son, Adam Faughn. The picture was taken after our son had presented a lesson at the Freed-Hardeman University lectureship a couple of years ago. 

I think I’m fairly safe in assuming that, when brother Waller baptized me, he had no idea that he would someday hear my son speak at the FHU lectureship.  In fact, when he baptized me, he had no idea that I would ever have a son.

After that post appeared, one of Jane’s cousins made her aware of it.  The insurance agent for/with whom she works (and who is an elder in a congregation close to where I live) told me a little about her reaction. As I remember it, he told me that her reaction was: “I had no idea…”

There is a little “backstory” to all of this. By the time I got to know brother Waller in the early to mid-1970’s, he had lost his first wife. I never knew her. I only knew the lady he had married after her death. I was only vaguely aware of the fact that brother Waller and his first wife had a couple of children. By the time I got to know him, they were no longer at home. 

At about the same time I wrote the post about brother Waller a few weeks ago, I learned that Jane Humphrey is one of those children. I had no idea.

Similarly, she had no idea that I had even known her father. She certainly did not know that he had baptized me.

As they say on television – But wait!  There’s more!!

When brother Waller baptized me, I was a high school teacher in my hometown of Metropolis, Illinois. At that time, I thought that would be my career for a lifetime.

However, that proved to not be the case. Sometime after brother Waller left my hometown, I ended my career as a teacher and began preaching in Vienna, Illinois. 

During my time in Vienna, brother Waller preached in a gospel meeting at his “home congregation” in Paducah, Kentucky. I was able to attend one night of that gospel meeting. As I talked with him following the service, I expressed “mock disappointment” about something he said – or more accurately did not say. 

Before he began his lesson for the evening, he expressed gratitude for people who were in attendance from various congregations in the area. As I talked with him later, I told him that I was “disappointed” because he had not mentioned Vienna, Illinois where I was preaching. 

I wish I had a picture of the look on his face. I still remember it. I also remember that, as rare as it is, I had caused a preacher to be speechless. While he did not say the words, the message was that he had no idea that I was no longer teaching school and was preaching.

I can remember that, during his time in Metropolis, there were a few times when brother Waller would ask me to accompany him as he conducted a Bible study in somebody’s home. It goes without saying that he had no idea that he was planting a seed that would someday produce a gospel preacher. 

So – what is the point of all of this? 

It is not merely about the fact that I have a new friend. It is not merely about some of the unusual twists and turns that my life has taken. It seems to me that there is something much bigger than those things to consider. 

It seems to me that the point of all of this is that none of us ever truly knows the people with whom we may be having what we think is only a casual conversation, a business transaction, etc. We may have more in common with a lady in an insurance office, a bank teller, a worker in some store or restaurant we frequent, etc. than we could ever imagine. 

I’m really hoping that my new Facebook friend was pleasantly surprised to learn about the connection between her late father and me. I’m hoping that, when she said that she had no idea, she was not saying that she found it difficult to believe that somebody who is so different from her father could have anything in common with him. 

We never know what kind of impact that our interaction with other people may have. How would you feel, for example, if you were to learn that the “nameless person” you just yelled at, cheated in a business deal, were rude to in some way, in a business, recreational, or social environment was, in fact, a brother or sister in the Lord? How would you feel if you learned that somebody who was giving some consideration to becoming a Christian was turned away from the Lord by observing your behavior?

Our impact and influence could reach beyond the immediate moment. We may never know how far-reaching our words, attitudes, and actions may be. It could very well be that the way I treat somebody who, at the moment, is unknown to me could change his or her life from that moment on. It could even very easily be the case that each of us could have an impact on generations yet to be born. (Remember, our son who is now a preacher was not even born when brother Waller baptized me.)

It could even be the case that what I do and say as I interact with others could have an impact for eternity. I think it would be wonderful to see somebody in heaven and for one or both of us to be able to say…

I had no idea.


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AUTHOR: Jim Faughn

Episode 77: The Church and Coffee Bars, Stay at Home Moms and Education, the Heart of Hospitality, and More! [Podcast]

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On this week’s podcast, Adam and Leah roll through a bunch of topics, ranging from how the church needs to have a priority on preaching the Gospel (and not on coffee bars) to how hospitality starts with our heart. And there is a lot more, too. All the links can be found below. We hope you enjoy their candid discussion of issues, both serious and fun.

Resources

Why The Church Doesn’t Need Any More Coffee Bars” [A Young Widow’s Story]

No, Stay at Home Moms Don’t ‘Waste’ Their Education” [The Federalist]

The Real Reason Your Child Might Leave the Church” [Jeremiah Tatum; A Legacy of Faith]

How to Have a Hospitality-Ready Heart” [Of the Hearth]

The Six Gifts of Hospitality by Laurel Sewell [Amazon]

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Preparing for a Wedding

March 20, 1970 was a very busy day. Actually, there had been a great deal going on for weeks around my mom and dad’s house. We were preparing for a wedding – my wedding to the man I loved and with whom I wanted to spend the rest of my life. 

The time and place were set. Dresses were being made for bridesmaids, suits were being selected for groomsmen, flowers were being selected, songs were being picked out, decorations for the church building were in the planning stages, a photographer was chosen, THE DRESS had been purchased, a place for the reception was selected, a beautiful cake had been ordered, and so many other things were occupying our time.

I know this sounds very familiar to anyone who has either planned a wedding or may be planning one in the not too distant future. There is so much to do to prepare for a wedding.

But, I wonder…do we take any time to prepare for the marriage? You see, there is a huge difference in the wedding and the marriage. The wedding is a celebration that lasts for part of a day. The marriage is intended by God to last for your lifetime (Matt. 19:5-6).

How do you plan for a marriage? Let me share a few thoughts that hopefully will help stir some young minds to make an even longer list of preparations for their marriage.

  • Take your time. Hopefully, you have had parents who recognize that the task of training their children for marriage begins with their example in marriage, and teaching what God says about marriage in His word. But, along with this, when you begin to have an interest in the opposite sex, take your time in selecting someone to date. Have your standards set that are in accordance with God’s word. Choose carefully the person with whom you will spend time and never rush into anything because “everyone else is.”
  • Listen to your parents. Most parents have a wealth of knowledge just because they have traveled the path upon which you are walking. Listen to and accept their wisdom on subjects having to do with life. Marrying a person is one thing; dealing with life on a day-to-day basis with that person is something else entirely. We listen to the advice of doctors, teachers, co-workers and others in our life. Make sure you listen to the two people who love you the most. (Prov. 1:8)
  • Understand the meaning of commitment. So many people today are raised without a deep understanding of commitment. We hear it said like this, “Rules are meant to be broken.” If it doesn’t please us or go our way, we quit. If you didn’t have parents who were committed to one another in marriage, learn what true commitment is before you enter marriage. Look carefully at the level of commitment of the person you are considering marrying and never assume “he’ll/she’ll change.” Again, God intended for marriage to last for a lifetime.
  • Seek pre-marital counseling. Many ministers will not perform a wedding ceremony until they have counseled with the couple. What a blessing!!! Talking with someone who is objective about differences you may have as individuals is invaluable. If the problems you may encounter can be pointed out before you are joined for life, you will hopefully be ready to tackle them when they come (and they will come).
  • Spend time in prayer and study. God will listen to you as you are preparing to enter the most important earthly relationship you will have. Next to being married to Christ when you become a Christian, this is your most important relationship. Pray for the person you will marry and his/her family. Pray for yourself and your family as you prepare to enter this new role in your life. Seek God’s wisdom in all of the planning for your life as a married person.
  • Enjoy your wedding day. Take joy in the beautiful wedding for which you planned, knowing that you have spent the most valuable time preparing for your marriage.

“Let marriage be held in honor among all…”  Heb. 13:4a


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AUTHOR: Donna Faughn

Get Out of the Blues

We all have difficult days. Our mood can be down and we can feel depressed. Even as Christians, there are seasons of life where we just struggle to feel “up.”

In fact, some suggest we are more likely to feel down in the cold and dark Winter, so maybe the changing of seasons is enough to break us from a difficult time.

But in case it is more than that, what can we do to get out of the blues?

[DISCLAIMER: This post is not speaking about clinical depression. That is a serious issue and we would never dare say that the things we are going to suggest are “the fix” for it. If you suffer from that type of depression, we pray for you and hope that doctors and others can help.]

If you are just feeling a little down, let me give a few practical steps to GET out of the blues.

GET into the Word. We need to remember that the Gospel is good news! Don’t you need to be reminded of that when you are in a difficult season of life? Yes, you may have difficult days and you may struggle for awhile. But if you are a Christian, your Savior has already defeated the enemy and you have the blissful hope of heaven. Read the Bible and be reminded of that!

GET on Your Knees. God wants to hear all your heartaches and struggles. Even if you think you are just going through a little lull, the Lord wants to know that. “Humble yourselves, therefore, under the mighty hand of God, so that at the proper time He may exalt you, casting all your anxieties on Him, because He cares for you” (1 Peter 5:6-7).

GET Outside. Sometimes we are down just because we have been staring at the same four walls for what seems like forever. Filling your lungs with fresh air and feeling the breeze and sunshine on your face can do wonders to lift your spirits. (Oh, and it reminds you of the awesome power and creativity of God, too.)

GET Some Exercise. It doesn’t have to be 12 hours of weightlifting (thank goodness). Just go for a brisk walk, or play catch with your kid. Take a bike ride or do some yard work. When the blood gets moving again and your muscles and joints are moving more, it helps pump good hormones through your body.

GET with a Friend. It may be your spouse, or it may be an old friend you just like catching up with over lemonade or lunch. But if they are truly a friend, you can confide in them that you are struggling. They will pray for you. They will help you smile. They will care…and sometimes, that’s all you need.

GET a Healthy Meal. When we feel bad, we often complicate it by eating poorly. We fill up on “comfort” food (which is often junk food) and then we start to not be as physically healthy. It is amazing what a couple of good, healthy meals will do for you when you are down. It doesn’t have to be a giant salad, either. Just avoiding junk and eating balanced and healthy meals will work wonders.

GET into Service. Few things do more to lift our spirits than to help someone else. Go visit a nursing home. Help an elderly lady clean out her flower beds. Run a dessert by the house of someone who is shut in. You will be reminded of some good things that you have, and you will take your thoughts off of yourself and pour them into the life of another.

It is okay to have a down day. We all do, and God understands that not every day will be filled with laughter and smiles.

But if you find yourself down, see if getting into these things doesn’t help you start to feel a little better and more optimistic.


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AUTHOR: Adam Faughn