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Episode 87: Polishing the Pulpit Preview, “Is Satan Stealing Our Families?” and More! [Podcast]

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On this week’s podcast, Adam and Leah talk about the beginning of the homeschool year. Then, they preview Polishing the Pulpit, both in general and some of the lessons they are presenting. Finally, they discuss a great article about how things that are not sinful can begin to eat away at our families and become idols. Resources below.

Links

Polishing the Pulpit [Homepage]

Polishing the Pulpit Schedule [pdf]

Is Satan Stealing Our Families?” [Brie Gowen]

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Episode 86: A Powerful Phrase for Moms, Phases in Parenting, and More! [Podcast]

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On this week’s podcast, Adam and Leah share an article with a great phrase for mothers to connect with other mothers, a post about the phrases of parenting, a good Bible reading resource, and some fun banter.

(But no music, due to a wild internet week.)

Enjoy it all–except the music–and find the resources below.

Resources

The Most Powerful Thing You Can Say to Another Mom” (PopSugar)

There’s More to Life Than This Temporary Phase” (Your Mom Has a Blog)

Bible Reading “Time” Chart (Facebook)

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Is the Line “Teen Vogue” Crossed Enough to Wake Parents Up?

In case you missed it, “Teen Vogue” released an article in recent days that many parents found shocking. [Warning: If your kids are around, you might not want them to read any further!]

The article’s main title is “Anal Sex: What You Need to Know.”

Remember, this was in “Teen Vogue.” Target age? 12-18. Meaning? They are teaching children to do things that are not only immoral but, in many cases, illegal.

Not to mention, depraved.

The article, subtitled, “How to Do It the RIGHT Way” (all caps in original), teaches your teenagers that this is a perfectly normal way to explore sex, and that they just need to know what to expect, both good and bad. It does not matter if they are straight, homosexual, male, female, whatever. This is just another way of having sex. That’s what, do I need to say it again, “Teen Vogue” is sharing these days.

Complete with charts and quotes, the article explains what used to be commonly called “sodomy” in detail, all while being playful enough to make sure teens don’t feel bad for experimenting with this “other way” of having sex.

Shocked yet?

I’ve seen a few reactions to the article. “Your Mom Has a Blog” wrote an excellent one, which was how I first came to know about the article in the first place.

I want to take a little different angle than just to blast “Teen Vogue” for their article, though.

I want to ask if this is enough to finally wake parents up.

For years, preachers, teachers, youth workers, elders, and others have been trying to inform parents about how our culture is continuing a downward slide in sexual morals, and it is targeting our young people.

Many have taught for years about skimpy clothing, only to be told that it’s just not that big of a deal, and kids should be allowed to be in fashion so no one makes fun of them.

Classes and sermons have been presented about immoral television shows and movies and music, only to have parents say that “it’s just entertainment” and “I can’t understand it anyway,” or “it’s just a phase.”

Some are still bold enough to show that viewing internet pornography or other sexually-explicit material is growing more and more common, only to have parents act like they don’t want to know what their kids are doing because they are afraid of finding out.

And some even hear parents–Christian parents–excuse and cover up and ignore when their kids are engaged in sexual activity. They figure their kids are “going to do it anyway,” so they just look the other way and act like it’s no big deal.

So, may I ask: is this article from “Teen Vogue” enough to wake us up? Is this enough to let us know that the culture really is that sexually deviant? Is this enough to show parents that it doesn’t start with articles like the one “Teen Vogue” published, but that this is just another step downward in our moral regression?

If not, what will it take?

Parents, the culture at large is feeding on our children. It wants them to think that “my way” is all that really matters, and that personal autonomy is the god of the age.

If you think that starts–or that it ends–with one article for teens about anal sex, then it’s time you woke up.

And it’s time we all started actually parenting our kids, and quit letting the culture do our job for us.


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AUTHOR: Adam Faughn

Are Fathers Really All That Important?

Is Dad just a joke? Are fathers really needed? Are they important at all?

Recently I listened to a podcast that referred to some material I found interesting and challenging.  I read the transcript of the podcast. I then read the material to which the podcast referred.

Those sources are:

While one might expect Dr. Mohler to approach any subject from a religious perspective, one would not expect NPR to do so. That is what I found fascinating. The material produced by them relied heavily on an interview with Alan Blankstein who, according to NPR, “…has spent a lifetime advocating for kids who struggle in school.” According to some information I have found out about him, religious implications would not be paramount in his mind.  He appears to be one who is mostly interested in the practical.

Without any commentary on my part about each point, here are some of the things I “pulled” from the material produced by NPR & Mr. Blankstein:

  • 24.7 million children in the United States do not live with a biological father.
  • Children are four times more likely to be poor if the father is not around.
  • Fatherless children are twice as likely to drop out (of school).
  • Girls are twice as likely to suffer from obesity without the father present.
  • Girls whose fathers are not present are four times more likely to get pregnant as teenagers.

Those are just a few of the facts that caught my attention. 

Here are some questions I had after listening to and reading the material:

  • What about those children who have a biological father in the house, but have one who could be described as a “deadbeat dad?” 
  • What about the ones whose dads are not deadbeats, but who leave all of the parenting up to the mother?
  • What about the dad who spends more time with his buddies and hobbies than he does with his wife and children?
  • What about the dad who is more interested in his career than his family?

I read something in a book that I think applies to this discussion.  See what you think.

Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger,

but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord

(Eph. 6:4, ESV, emphasis added).


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AUTHOR: Jim Faughn

Episode 85: Technology in Worship, Modesty for Kids, Marriage Myths…and More! [Podcast]

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On this week’s program, Adam and Leah take some time to discuss three very important subjects. What about kids have tech in worship? Why modesty for kids really matters? What are some common myths our culture tells us about marriage?

The links to these articles can be found below.

Resources

Children and Technology in Church” (PreachingHelp)

He Looked Down: A Powerful Lesson on Immodesty and Respect” (A Legacy of Faith)

5 Myths Our Culture Tells Us about Marriage” (Of the Hearth)

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He Looked Down : A Powerful Lesson on Immodesty and Respect

A preaching friend of mine told me a true story about a little boy, and it was a story that stuck with me. He was saying that this young man–probably 5 or 6 years of age–was visiting someone else’s house and they were watching TV.

They noticed that the little boy would look down every once in awhile. He wasn’t playing on a phone or tablet. He didn’t have a book in his hands. He just looked down every so often.

Finally, they asked this little boy why he kept looking down and the young boy’s response shamed and woke up his friend’s family.

He pointed at the television and said, “She’s not dressed enough and momma always taught me to look away when a girl wasn’t dressed right so I wouldn’t embarrass her.”

We live in a society that is immodest to its core. You don’t even have to see clothes on people; just walk through the stores and notice what fashions are for sale these days. Mothers tell me all the time how difficult it is to find modest clothes for teen and preteen girls.

Consider:

When the bikini was introduced, it was so scandalous that no fashion model would wear it. A local stripper had to be hired to model it in a fashion show. Now? Christian girls post pictures of themselves on social media proudly wearing their bikini.

There was a time when shorts were considered inappropriate at nearly all times. Now? Many stores are selling shorts that are so short that the pockets (the inside lining) actually is longer than the denim (or other material) that makes up the legs.

Messaging on clothes for even little girls has gone from pictures of a horse or something about being sweet to messages about how “hot” I am or even how “sexy.” And these are clothes for 8, 9, and 10-year old girls.

Many Christian men now struggle to attend high school football games (or other sports), or to sit in certain seats, because the cheerleading, dance team, and baton twirling outfits have become so indecently short and revealing they know they do not need to see them. And when we see pictures of older cheerleading outfits, what does our society do? We laugh at how “modest” and “outdated” they were.

And it’s not just the ladies. Men used to take care of their bodies but cover them in public. Now, men take selfies without shirts on or with very tight and short shirts to show off their sculpted bodies, and they plaster the pictures all over social media.

I just wonder how often Christians are being like that little boy, and looking away.

We have too many people who are just swimming in the culture and acting like it is no big deal. We have many others who even join in, adding pictures of their uncovered skin to social media or sending pictures in texts. We have tons of people who decide to be modest at home, but who go to the beach, amusement park, water park, or lake and shed more and more clothing in front of anyone who happens to be there.

And when we do, something dies.

What is it? Respect.

A little bit of respect for God dies. He created our bodies not to be flaunted and used to our own glory and pride, but in use to His glory.

A little bit of respect for our spouse (or future spouse) dies. Each time I allow someone else to “drink in” more of my body, I am taking away something that is very special to my spouse, or I am taking away something special from the one I am saving myself for in a future marriage.

A little bit of respect for children dies. When I show off more and more of myself in a sexualized way, I am teaching children that this is how to get attention and that it’s all okay. I’m making them think–at younger and younger ages–that your body and sexuality is all that really matters.

A little bit of respect for culture and society dies. With each small movement toward immodesty, our culture becomes more indecent, undermining the very fabric of civilization.

A little bit of respect for myself dies. While I may tell the world, “I’ve got it, so I flaunt it,” I know, deep down, that I am more than just a body. Still, I suppress that part of my thinking and just go on, plunging deeper into the world’s narrative and removing myself from honoring my soul.

I’m not trying to give a list of “how short” or “how tight” or “how little fabric.” Folks, we know. We know the first time we pick something up off the rack or the shelf and something inside of us asks, “Is this appropriate?” We know the first time we put something on and it’s a little tighter than we might like. And, we know when a child looks away like that little boy.

I never want to be the reason why anyone has to look away. I never want anyone in my family to be that reason, either.

And I never want any Christian to be that reason. So, for the sake not just of one little boy, but for the sake of God, our spouse, children, society, and ourselves, let’s clothe ourselves modestly, forgetting the ways of the world, and thinking as people who bear the image of God in our souls.

“You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.”

(1 Corinthians 6:19b-20)


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AUTHOR: Adam Faughn

Episode 84: Potatoes, Pickles, Polishing the Pulpit, Parenting…and More! [Podcast]

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In this week’s episode, Adam and Leah share some things that have been going on in their lives, then take some time to discuss two great parenting lists. We hope you enjoy! Links below.

Resources

New Issues for Today’s Parents (Life in the Kingdom)

Raising a Knight in a Decaying Culture (The Unlikely Homeschool)

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Episode 83: We’re Raising Adults, Social…Not Social Media…for Kids, and More! [Podcast]

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On this week’s podcast, Adam and Leah look back at Maywood Christian Camp, forward to the Summer Gospel Meeting at 9th Avenue, then share great parenting links. There is a discussion about what a Stanford dean thinks every 18-year-old should be able to do, and some thoughts on why children should not be involved in social media.

Enjoy the podcast. Resources are below.

Links

A Stanford dean on adult skills every 18-year-old should have” [Quartz]

Why My Kids Don’t Have Social Media” [CC + Mike]

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Episode 82: How to Actually Enjoy a Busy Summer [Podcast]

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Summer is a wonderful time of year. If families are not intentional, however, the summer can pass without doing all those things they want to do. On this podcast, Adam and Leah talk about their busy summer, and share a few simple tips for making sure you enjoy these months and all the activities they contain.

Links

Transitions” (Donna Faughn on A Legacy of Faith)

Making Summer Plans” (Arrows in Our Hand podcast)

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Transitions

Cousins’ Camp 2017 has come and gone for another year. We have worshiped together, played games, done crafts, done sidewalk chalk, jumped at Vertical Jump Park, had our picture taken wearing our Cousin’s Camp T-shirts, eaten food (and lots of it), won prizes, put new flowers on the graves of their great-grandparents, fussed a little, cried a little, laughed a lot, had our talent show, sung together, prayed together, and had devotionals presented by Grampy and the three boys.

This was our fifth year for this gathering and it seemed like everyone had a good time. Three years ago we began assigning a theme for each year. The first theme was “Discovery” and the second was “Exploration.” This year’s theme was “Transitions.”

We’ve had some transitions in our family (just like each family does) that were worth thinking about. Jim retired from full-time pulpit preaching, Luke turned 16 and will be getting a driver’s license, and the younger ones have transitioned to higher grades. While no one moved to another place in the last year, each of them has undergone transitions in their lives as they moved to new places to live and attend school.

We want our grandchildren to understand that transitions come into each of our lives, and while some of them seem of little importance, some are much larger and affect life more drastically.

When the boys gave their devotionals, we were pleased to hear them talk about those in the Bible who underwent transitions in life. They talked about Saul of Tarsus, the Ethiopian eunuch, Jesus, and others who had great transitions in their lives. One even mentioned people from history like Martin Luther who made transitions in life.   

When our final prayer was said on our last morning together, Luke (our oldest grandson) talked about this theme and asked God to help us with the transitions that come into our lives. He thanked God for the time we got to spend together, and asked God for safety as they began to travel home.

Jim and I have been blessed to watch these grandchildren transition through life. With all of the ups and downs they still are moving in the direction of Heaven. Our daily prayer for them is that they will always live in such a way that their final transition will be to their heavenly home. I think they understand that a little better now after Cousin’s Camp 2017…”Transitions.”

“Only take care, and keep your soul diligently, lest you forget the things that your eyes have seen, and lest they depart from your heart all the days of your life.  Make them known to your children and your children’s children…

so that they may learn to fear me all the days that they live on the earth, and that they may teach their children so.“  Deuteronomy 4:9,10


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AUTHOR: Donna Faughn